When did we get out of the habit of spending time with each other and making each other a priority?
How do you do that with three kids in tow? When their shouts are insistent? When they constantly interrupt conversations or need help or when the potty-training one pees on the floor? How do you make each other a priority then?
How do you summon up the energy for conversations, romantic dinners and thoughtful texts when you don't have time to think?
After 15 years of marriage, as our littlest one starts at pre-school, it's starting to feel like we are changing eras. We can see the end of nappies and the beginning of school for the youngest, she doesn't need so physical help but can do things by herself. This year may well be the advent of a new season for our family and I'm looking forward to it.
And it happens that we start 40th celebrations in our house this year. What an odd feeling that is. Surreal. Bizarre. Not so sure I'm looking forward to that part, no matter how many people tell me that your 40s are the new 20s, the best time of your life. I quite enjoyed being in my 30s and I'm determined to make the most of the last of this decade.